I don't want to write about this if I am not "required". Well I find this topic kind of difficult to discuss about since I am a girl. Ladies / girls should know, how to being a lovely and responsible girlfriend but somehow!? they unable to be a right partner for their loved one. There's a saying, "For a woman; all other man are perfect expect her husband and for a man his neighbour is a perfect wife expect his own"
I wonder how could a guy wrote that :) There should be a REASON. So let's we see what other woman and girls doing out there until these man could spilled those word towards us!
How a girl suppose to be?
A girl should be a most lovely and understanding for man. Not only in term of psychically but character wise. Guys simply just like kids, they not only need a girl who can cook and doing household thingy for him. He needs someone who can be his good pal, good smile face, clean and neat and etc. He wants someone who can adopt him without changing him at any tiny point. Just don't regret if he go after another woman who is attractive just because you couldn't cooperate with him.
Please understand him well and take your sweet time to know him. If you really sure that you knew him well, then start talk about the things that you don't want him to do which is ruining your relationship; don't simply ask change this and that. He may feel so tied! Even I don't like that kinda fuss! Don't ever shout at your man, if he keep quiet, it's good for you! Basically guys do not appreciate anyone shouts at them. And stop (if you doing) finger point at him!! This one of bad habit of girls which any guy don't encourage at all. This shows you don't have respect enough in your relationship and also your partner. So try to respect him.
Try to forget things. This is really important to discuss here. Your partner would have done huge, unforgivable stuff but if he stops doing it or don't want to think about it, just respect his space and do not condemn afterwards. Try to forgive it as he pleased you (if) and continue your happy life. Don't ever dig his past stories again inten of hurt him. That will be very hurting for him, at the same time he will loosing hope in you ( definitely!!). It's you who decide your life; with him. So beware with words.
Understanding is not really simple thing as the word's sound does but nothing wrong on try to be an understanding girlfriend, right? Just do that. Don't ever assume things by yourself and make things worse. So be practical and factual in relationship. Guys never want to be an explainer in mid of room / hall. You don't have to ask him too. And (at last) if you would like ask anything, don't ask him while he is eating, watching television or sleeping. He can be very tired. He need good meal for full his stomach. He need good entertainment to forget nasty things happened out there. He need good rest too. So you can have your questioning session before he going to bed. Make it in polite and manner way. Don't ask question as if he owing you. Try to respect his privacy and ask things in mainly. You may ask him in details if it's (only) necessary. When things going smooth you don't have to be so harsh and rude. That not going to sort anything but make situation worst. So watch your words and body languages.
Respect his wishes and privacy. Don't be too selfish, everytime and everything must not be your wish. He is your partner; means, he reserved half rights of you guys life! But what exactly happening out there? Try to ask yourself , if you are right? End of the day you would have lived his life and he wouldn't have live at all after. And you don't have to wait until end of the day to see some worse scenario. He will be very bored and tired of your thingy even mid of your life. There's a lot of chances to run away from you. Or making up personal affair with some other girl. The most painful thing is living our own life like a deadbody. Like a doll. He might not have the passion that he had for you once but living with you for a sake of anything. Trust me, you will feel that. Don't make him feel that he's living in fake and don't make his life miserable. Give him privacy and let him go with his friends once a month or twice a month. Don't ask him what he did there and what they talk; guys have 101 story to talk about, they speak many stuffs which you may not appreciate (that's not his problem) so when he tell you, try to enjoy it (although you don't like it) and don't end the nice memory that he had with his friends, another poor day of his life by arguing.
Love his family. One of important part. I don't understand why girls need to fight with their partner's family who is actually her family? If you can't adopt them, you don't have to have a partner then. He spent and will be spending another 20 years them, so you should respect them; because of them he brought up as a charming boy, in the way you like. So respect them and give them attention as you doing for him. Stop wary about everything. Respect them. Love them. You don't have ask for your man's love, he will be ready for you anytime if you are ready for his family. Guys always has good attachment with his family. If you are half of his wishes, you should able to love them. If you unable so, that will make him feel strange and end of the day he need to hide everything from you especially about his family. And you will be the last person who will know things! You want to be out dated from your own family??
Simply, a girl must be completely ready to accept an imperfect man into her life with all her patience. Yea, this what I love to do, I will note each and every step of him. because I love him! The way he drives, the way he talk, the way he taking things and I tell you you will never felt wanted to scold him if you does that. Basicaly guys has the "possessiveness" little bit and don't make it hugeee by your fucked up dressing style and the way you treats other guys. Remember your man is next to you so you don't have to tell him that the other man damn hot or what. It's just comment but you might not appreciate if he says "she's hot" and pointing at your friend, tell you what you can't accept it. So be a good girl with your man. If you able to earn good name from your man it's more than enough and you can be whatever you want to be. Because a third person who came to life and his word...should be right!!
There's a lot of thingys out there. If you want a man who listens to you then you have to be lady who able to (at least) hear from them. :)
"Expectation is acceptation". So if you expect something from him try to accept from his too!!
A girl who trying to do this..
